haptalaon | (Reply)

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Agreement on the other bits of your comment!

Agreed there is a helpful difference between answering requests, and proactively volunteering information. I guess it's having an appropriate idea of who you can, and can't, take responsibility for - everyone is different, and for some that might be "people in my coven" not the whole scene.

Yeah. And part of the issue is that a) I don't know most of the other people well enough to have a good idea how they'd react to that info (again, different than Minnesota, where there were about two dozen people regularly doing group leadership things where I was pretty sure what they'd do with certain info, based on past experience.)

and in particular b) some of the people active in the area are on the other side of a significant division in a witchcraft trad that one of my best friends (and her teacher) are on the other side of.

Which doesn't prevent me having conversations with them (because some of the differences are 'this is not my mess to be involved with, and I know I have incomplete info about trad specifics') but in some cases the patterns of behaviour around that have made me want to be cautious about sharing information in particular settings.

(I probably still would if it were a direct connection or concern, but it might change how I approached the conversation.)