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OK, so I have one more post - it's a bibliography with links - but the file broke, so I'll have to finish it later in the week. Also, I have comments to reply to - I haven't forgotten :)

Cheers for reading. Cheers for any feedback, be they comments, response posts, or attempts to answer the initial prompt questions for yourself.
Cheers for making Dreamwidth a safer environment to talk about difficult stuff in.

When I was working on this earlier in the week, I had to go on some very brisk "get out of your head" walks to handle some worries which were coming up, but having finished it - I'm moderately proud of it, i feel the process of writing it was constructive & helpful, and confident about posting it. So this is a nice thing too.
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As I’ve been writing and thinking, there are a couple of big unanswered questions/unadressed problems.

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 Heyyyyyy it's part 5! Still awake? Imagine we're walking in the snow - keep putting on thermal vests and extra jumpers and a second scarf and many, many pairs of socks. Layers and layers and layers and layers.

By now, you've got a coven whose organisation and liturgy are designed to limit unhealthy use of power. Your clergy and members are aware of abuse, and both are trained in ways to prevent their behavior, or help them spot it in others. Hopefully, some of this will quietly hum away in the background, ready to spring into action when required.

This post is about running the coven day-to-day, to discourage power concentrating in the wrong hands.

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Welcome to part 4! Still with me? These techniques are on how to lead ethically, and how to train new leaders.

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Welcome to Part III. These are tools you could use while training new coven members/initiates


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Welcome to Part II. This post offers some suggestions for how design the spiritual framework for what a group does to insulate it against future problems.


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Welcome to Part I. This post offers some suggestions for how to lay good groundwork during the planning stages. Here, we’re planning the humdrum everyday stuff any group needs to plan for.


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[personal profile] alexseanchai asked some good questions in a recent comment:
  • How do you propose to ensure the safety of the community you propose to lead?
  • How do you ensure the perceived safety of the community you propose to lead, when you are top of the hierarchy? how will you prove that you are worth their trust (knowing that you are not the only one with these two instincts and especially knowing that religious hierarchy is easily abused?)
  • How do you propose to continue to ensure the safety, both actual and perceived, of this community at such point as you are no longer able/willing to be top of its hierarchy?
The two instincts I described were:
  • I believe groups to have an inherent capacity for violence, abuse and danger
  • I want to run a coven in part to ensure I'm not on the recieving end!
The topic is important enough for an expanded reply...

CN: This post series talks about spiritual abuse, community abuse, and #metoo dynamics - but not in graphic terms.


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