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Is there any worse trope in fiction - particularly fantasy - where there's a girl with a dead mom. & the girl relates to this as "she was so beautiful. My father loved her so much. I have special feelings about how romantic that relationship was. I think about her dresses and her hair and how she smelled" & the dad (or other adults) relate to this as "you're as beautiful as your mother. You look just like her". Its often borderline incestuous, and when it isn't that, it's fetishising this dead lady into this saintlike object defined only by her beauty and participation in romance. Like, it's never "I miss my wife's dedication to embroidery and how passionate she was about it; you remind me of her, she would have been so proud of how you're developing the art".