haptalaon | (Reply)

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No, I agree. I'm queer but I'm not very comfortable in queer spaces. The most comfortable I've been was at Rainbow Families in Helsinki, where you mainly talk about your kids.

I want to live my life without being viewed as primarily a woman or primarily a person of radical sexy queer orientation. I want to be viewed primarily as someone who likes writing, boardgames and My Little Ponies (but only the 80s ones). And you're not gonna get that in spaces that are focused on gender and sexuality, where people go to talk about gender and sexuality. I like reading the conversations to broaden my understanding and know where we're at, but I prefer to stay outside of it. At least in other spaces there is a CHANCE, or I can PRETEND I'm not primarily being viewed as a woman and a sexual being, and if someone starts talking to me in those terms I can shut them down or walk away.

(I requested out loud at work to be considered an asexual genderless blob, please, when the innuendo started flying around, but they were good people; that's why I felt free to ask.)